Multitasking: Kids & work life
Working moms have it tough. Being a parent alone is like having a 9/5 but really 24 hours, 365-day job that you get no days off. Having a job on top of it, hypothetically is like having another child. Balancing cooking, cleaning, homework, activities, and work is crazy. Being committed fully to work and family is an impossible task that working they must take on. It can be exhausting and very much time consuming. You are on your feet all day, and everything feels non-stop, and your left being perceived as not fully present as an employee or a mother. But it does not have to be this way. There are ways you can work and manage around it while having balance.
These tips will help working moms to make juggling the two sides a little bit easier not only for there self’s but keeping both sides happy.
Use time saving hacks
To get the most done in the least amount of time, use shortcuts and plan strategically. Budget and make a list of expenses. Have a system of how or what needs to be paid and when. Having separate bank accounts for bills, spending money, savings.
Order your groceries online and have it delivered to your house; this saves time and ensures that you do not forget anything. This could be used as a form of a chore for an older kid to be back from school at a certain time and put the groceries away.
Schedule conference calls during your commute and get quick errands done during your lunch break to free up more time during the week.
Always have a back up plan as you do not know when things can go wrong or left without notice.
Prepare outfits and lunches the night before so that you can enjoy your morning instead of rushing to get out the door on time.
Create special and meaningful family activities
Make the time that you spend with your family really count by planning activities that everyone will look forward to and enjoy. Making time for your kids is crucial, both during the week and on the weekends, to nurture your family dynamic and allow everyone to bond.
You could ask for their activity suggestions and try to meet their needs. In the end, it does not really matter what you do as long as you do it together.
Organize a weekly family game night, have a picnic in the backyard, or go bowling. take long walks with my family at nearby parks because it gives you a chance to be active and have great conversations. Ask for ideas from your older kids and let them get involved in deciding where to go too. There is amazing attraction all over that will be great to experience as well as just being creative with it. Trying to budget and cannot go to the cinema bring the cinema home to you. Go to your local store and get popcorn and snacks and put a movie on and enjoy.
Just showing your being creative shows interest which strengths the bond you have with your family as well as reassures them that your present and think of them even when your busy with work. Work doesn’t dictate your life or take from them which avoids your partner and kids feeling unloved or cared for which leaves a health balance.
Stay organized using calendars and lists, plan ahead
The mental load that working mothers must take on is a responsibility that no one else can understand.
You are the one in charge of keeping track of doctor’s appointments, signing permission slips, bringing potluck dishes, remembering birthdays, writing cards, staying on top of clothes and sizes, knowing what is in the fridge and pantry, never letting the house run out of toilet paper, just to name a few.
Use planners, apps, and other resources to keep track of your never-ending to-do’s and let go of some of the mental weight.
Plan as much as possible so that nothing is left to the last minute. Figure out your family’s priorities. A calendar can include, a chore chart, a list of school and family events, extracurricular activities, birthdays, and more. Families should share the calendar with their babysitter or nanny so that everyone is up to date on activities. Staying organized is also about having a clean environment.
Lower your expectations
A lot of the pressure that moms must cook healthy and delicious meals daily, maintain a perfectly clean house, and be the perfect parent are expectations that you put on yourself. No one else demands as much as you demand of yourself. This pressure can also be stereotypes or just opinions that you do not have to take on. There is not a manual on parenting and what to do and how to be a perfect wife and mum. It’s about doing what’s best and most comfortable and works with well with you and your family as everyone is different in how they think, opinions, upbringing and many more. Which reinforces the point that you are in control of your life no one else.
When you lower your expectations, you will find a lot of the unnecessary stress can be eliminated. Your house does NOT need to be spotless every time a guest comes over, especially if the guest also has children. It would be great if it were, but it is not realistic. Home cooked meals every day is a great goal to strive towards…one day, but leftovers or meal preps and take out will also feed your family simply fine.
Make time for me time
One of the most important before anything really is you. Without you there is nothing. A marriage, kids, and a household. If you are not healthy, mentally, physically then your household falls apart. Like a car if there is no fuel it will not move. Being a parent, you do not have time to be sick and run out of fuel.
Finding time for yourself is crucial in maintaining inner peace and balance within the hectic environment of work and home life. Moms have a bad habit of putting their own needs last to take care of everyone else first. But if you are not taking care of yourself, how can you expect to take care of anyone else well?
Find the time on a regular basis and an activity that will allow you to relax and recharge. Some ideas include meditation, yoga, working out, reading, writing, catching up with a friend, or pampering yourself.
For me, one thing I like to do during “me time” is writing in my gratitude journal. It helps me to appreciate more, put things into perspective, and make my worries and anxieties seem less consequential.
Can a working mom have both a successful career and a fulfilling family life? It is possible. It may not look exactly like how you pictured it, but do not let that deceive you. Recognise and appreciate all the great things you do have, and just take it one day at a time.